Family is the most important thing to most of us, so when it starts to go wrong and family members fall out, it can feel devastating. It’s not easy to ask for help either as the temptation is to push your worries under the carpet and hope they will go away, or to feel ashamed of how your family isn’t working. But therapy can help as often family fall-outs are a result of poor communication, lack of respectful boundaries, low self-esteem and poor self-care. It may seem difficult to believe that improving these specific areas can hugely impact how a family gets on, but it can.
family and relationship therapy
Here at Charter we can either assess or refer you for assessment, either separately or together so that you feel both you and the troubling dynamic are understood, that you have been heard in your individual difficulties, and realistic goals established. A plan of therapy will then be outlined, either through referral to one of our recommended therapists for individual therapy, or through working at Charter in family therapy, a group or workshop.
We encourage each individual to commit to the privacy of therapy to consider how he or she can best represent themselves, and with the resulting relationship. We encourage you to examine how resentments may have built up and at how normal boundaries and expectations may have given way to life’s sometimes daunting demands.
There’s no perfect formula for a happy family and relationship, but there are certainly ideal components, such as clean communication and good self-esteem that can vastly improve a family dynamic and which we can teach.
Our approaches to family therapy and relationship counselling depend very much on the issues being presented. Some counselling sessions work with family groups, and others with a a unique format of brief therapy we have developed at Charter with great success, working within a pair, specifically targeting the mutual areas of difficulty. Whatever the relationship or the need, we will work with you to address a specific issue.
Families are the original social group and as such are a huge influence in how we interact socially, who we attract and in the roles we inhabit. We are indeed products of our childhoods – that is until we are conscious of these influences which then gives us a chance to take responsibility and become who we want to be in relationship. Denial of childhood priming makes you blind to your part in any relationship difficulty, but if an experience is cyclical, then it’s likely you are playing a part. Exploring what that is and making a decision about how you might want to change is the opportunity therapy provides.
Mandy Saligari‘s well-established relationship with the independent schools sector means that we work a great deal with parents and families as much before the problems become critical, an opportunity for early intervention that we strongly promote, or in the midst of a crisis. We work hard to provide you with the understanding to take responsibility for a sustainable solution for your family.
We strongly recommend you read Mandy Saligari’s book Proactive Parenting to help you as a parent, or to learn how to better parent yourself in your recovery journey with us at Charter.
D.T - OUTPATIENT PROGRAMME
The work is comprehensive, searching and at times, uncomfortable. But it's absolutely necessary. My advice to anyone struggling with addiction who's thinking about going is very simple. Do it. Throw in the towel. Get yourself into group, open up, get honest.
As Mandy would say, 'get some skin in the game'.
MAGGIE - OUTPATIENT PROGRAMME
Charter gave me my first real glimpse of freedom of my addiction and the will to face another day free of fear. Every single therapist brought their own particular stance into the groups, and there was as much laughter as tears.
We were all led by Mandy Saligari, the bravest and most intuitive people I have ever met. I can only say thank you.
J.T, grateful addict - OUTPATIENT PROGRAMME
What makes Charter so special is the way Mandy works with the rest of the team to create a complete picture of what you need and where you’re at, on an almost second by second basis. I felt seen and heard. This made me feel safe enough to get on with the painful risks I needed to take in group to get properly well; the risks I’d spent a whole life avoiding.
E.D - wife & mother
I found the drama triangle and boundary work really useful and consequently I don’t ever feel that I am running on empty. I am kinder to myself. I have the tools now to avoid the pointless circular arguments and accusations that seemed to be an inevitable part of family life, consequently I am happier.