Healthy intimacy is when you allow people to know you to whatever level suits the relationship, but at the same time you can maintain a respectful sense of self; i.e. you don’t lose yourself or betray your values as a result of letting someone close. Many relationships problems stem from issues around intimacy and your experience of vulnerability and they show up as rows, increasing levels of resentment, feelings of being misunderstood or of being taken for granted.
At CHARTER we look at relationship difficulties through two simple perspectives at the same time. The first is to explore how you treat and feel about yourself. This will be implicit in how you allow others to treat you. Having a better understanding of your relationship with yourself and learning how to better take care of your own needs will set you up to have a more satisfying relationship with someone else. The second perspective is to explore the level of respect and the effectiveness of your communication with one another. Relationships can be made or broken by these two crucial dimensions of intimacy – communication and respect – and almost always where there are relationship difficulties there are problems around ineffective communication which is often fuelled by poor self-esteem. Sometimes this manifests as infidelity or a betrayal of trust, as inequality in the relationship or as an extreme form of control, but usually once we have supported you to communicate more effectively and with better self-esteem you will find that these issues can often be more easily and calmly resolved.
Whether your difficulty in relationship is with a partner or a sibling, whether it’s a parent:child conflict or trouble in the step-family, whether you have fallen out with a friend, or are struggling with a work colleague you can do something about it. Both parties don’t always have to attend for therapy to work as it only takes one person to change the dance, but it does help.
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